Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Thank you Evelyn
I remember the wise words of friends and family in response to my questions of co sleeping with kids when they were babies.
"Don't worry about it, it's not like they will still be in your bed when they are in high school."
Well let me just say this about that. It sure seemed like my youngest was never gettin' out.
Last spring when her beloved guinea pig Pepper died, I made the mistake of burying him outside her bedroom window. We don't have a pet cemetery per say, although Lord knows we have nearly enough bodies out there by now that we could employ a full time ground's keeper. We dig where ever there are not a lot of tree roots. Considering we have a fairly large yard, unless I put animals square smack in the middle of the front lawn, there are not a lot of good spots left. I put Pepper in what I thought was a choice spot, next to the Day Lilly patch. They were just poking through at that time and I wrongly thought that the huge orange patch of summer flowers would somehow help make things better. No one complained when Blazekin the canary was buried on the other side.
Well the poor kid FREAKED. Wouldn't go near that spot in the yard for months, kept the blinds closed and wouldn't even look out the bedroom window.
Heather had been in my bed for months to stave off nightmares, and the end was no where in sight. My bed casa is su casa. With her came lots of her stuff, by stuff, I mean toys, clothes, and lots and lots of stuffed animals. I kind of got used to sleeping with the soft stuffed frog between us. It was that or wake up with a kids toes to the nose. I tried for some sort of boundary.
All this co-sleeping changed due to the loss of a good friend's life. The Maine dog community is still grieving the loss of Evelyn Stackpole , our matriarch. Nicer woman there wasn't.
Evelyn and her two beloved Dobie's Glory and Paige were a super star team. Evelyn was a member of our freestyle group the Wild Blueberries, and whatever I showed her, she and Glory could either do right then on the spot, or she came back the next week and she and Glory had it down. At 78 years young, she was an inspiration to watch.
The contents of Evelyn's Saco home, was sold in a giant 2 day yard sale hosted by her friends and family two week ends ago. The dog stuff was sold to benefit various dog clubs and organizations that she supported, and I was there bright and early with my two girls. My youngest asked me endlessly in the car on the way over, "do you think Evelyn had any dobie stuffed animals?" I was pretty certain that she did, and told Heather, sure, Evelyn would want you to have and appreciate them.
When we turned into her driveway we were greeted by the sight of her blue mini van with a for sale sign on. The van was seen at all and every dog event. It was sadly missing her Dobie magnets. The girls and I cried.
So sad. Such a loss.
As we trekked first to the agility yard, and then through all her knick knacks, it was sad sad sad, and, even as I type this, I still have a lump in my throat, and I hadn't t even known Evelyn that long. Most of the people there were her life long friends. That says something about a person. Evelyn and her husband raised their family in that house.
One of the first sites to greet us at the yard sale were three very large Doberman stuffed animals. At only $2. a piece I said yes to two of them and no to the third. They were bigger than Stella! and would take up too much room I told her. We went back and forth for a while until as a last ditch pitch from my daughter, I heard the following words;
"If I get all three dogs, they will help me sleep in my bed. I promise if you buy them for me, I will sleep in my own bed."
REALLY? NO SHIT? REALLY? OMG!!
Two of the dogs still had tags, as did quite a lot of the stuff at the sale. We suspect that Evelyn loved to shop and often picked up things to later donate and gift.
While she was giving the big spiel on why she deserved all 3 dogs, Rebeccah who was running the sale, looked at me with a twinkle in her eye and suggested she sell the dogs with a contract like a real puppy or rescue dog. In the event Heather does not care for the dogs properly by sleeping in her own bed, the dogs go back to the estate.
That night we cleaned up her room a bit, and found places for the 3 large dogs to sleep. Glory and Paige, named after Evelyn's beloved dogs, sleep with her next to my favorite frog in the bed, and the male on the floor watches over her.
Evelyn would have loved this.